Louise van der Velde’s 69 sex tips!

1. Prepare for your night of passion like you would for a lads’ night out, don't just leave it all to chance, so come on lads prepare yourselves for the best pastime of all

2. Dress sexy; get some champagne in, as well as strawberries, melted chocolate and lots of sticky foods to play with

3. Send her texts throughout the day telling her what you would like to do to her when she gets home

4. Put on some soft music, dim the lights, put on a good after-shave, but not too much of it

5. Then get the girl in the mood by feeding all her senses

6. Run her a bath with a carefully chosen, sensuously-scented bath-oil

7. Give her a sensual massage with ready-mixed Jasmine or Ylang-Ylang essential oils

8. Take time to caress her whole body after the massage, leaving the erogenous zones until last

9. Allow plenty of time for fore-play in order to warm her up - remember women take up to four times longer than men to get in the mood for love-making

10. Plan your session well ahead with a supply of feathers with which to stroke her and fruit and ice-cream with which to feed her

11. Step out of your comfort zone to make her laugh perhaps by doing a striptease

12. Ask her to do similar for you such as a dance to some appropriate music

13. With your hands or tongue, take your time to tease around her breasts, nipples and legs, gradually working towards her centre of passion

14. Be sure to be slow and gentle, while you allow your tongue to find her clitoris

15. Always use both direct and indirect strokes.

16. Make sure you always listen to her and respond accordingly

17. Kiss her pussy as if it was her mouth with soft, sweet kisses which will drive her crazy

18. For multiple orgasms after she has climaxed for the first time, keep your tongue around but not on the clitoris

19. Keep the action going gently until the hypersensitive phase passes in a few seconds

20. Keep going rapidly, but also rhythmically to make her come again

21. Make sure you are fully in the moment, don’t hold back even if the experience is for one night only

22. Be open and talk about your fantasies and desires, because you won’t realize them in reality unless you make them clear

23. For your own heightened pleasure, be sure to direct your lover and ask specifically for what you want regarding tempo, pressure and technique, whether during massage, caresses or oral sex

24. Use the stop and start method for fantastic orgasms. When you feel close to orgasm but before the point of no return, stop all movements and then build up the pressure again four or five times, for the most intense orgasm you have ever experienced

25. Your tongue is NOT an electric whisk, so slow down! Many men think that when they are kissing a woman, the faster and deeper their tongue is, the better. BULLSHIT! It isn't a race and you are not mining for coal

26. Women know that if a man is good at kissing, then he is usually good in bed. That is almost an absolute given

27. Remember that how a woman touches you is how she wants to be touched.

28. When you go in for the kiss and she softly touches your cheek or the back of your neck, she is showing you where she wants you to touch her and how. Pay attention to her reactions. You will be able to tell if she is enjoying herself or not. If she isn't, she'll let you know.

29. Flat tongues are better for licking. Think of licking an ice cream cone. Your tongue should cover as much surface area as possible. Think about how you would want her to lick your cock

30. Take your time, a little deep mining down there is always appreciated

31. Tell her what you're thinking! Women want to know. Why do you think we ask you so often? This also applies in bed

32. Tell her you love the way she kisses you, you love how soft her skin is, that her hair smells good, tell her she tastes good and how much you love being inside her. Women like to hear these things. It makes us feel sexy and confident

33. Read her bedtime stories. Pick her favourite bits from this article and ask her what she thinks. It's a subtle but effective way to kick-start frank discussions about your fantasies

34. Step up your staying power between the sheets. If you want to try all the positions in this article, but are about to blow, try the “valsalva” manoeuvre.
     This sneaky delaying tactic involves bearing down as though you're trying to have a bowel movement

35. Increasing your intra-abdominal pressure relaxes the muscles which contract during ejaculation, but don't bear down too hard or you might “pass” more than you expect

36. Practise lasting longer before you come. Each time you masturbate, stop just before ejaculation. Wait until you regain your composure, and then repeat the process several times. This will help you control your orgasm, so eventually you'll be a marathon man

37. TAKE THE TIME TO CHECK OUT WHERE SHE LOVES TO HEAR YOU; try whispering from the left and then the right-hand side and then from the back and in front. Gage her reactions to find out which  direction of sound drives her crazy and gets her shivering, there will be a marked difference

38. You can never use too much lubricant especially if you are going anal. Whether you are using a finger, dildo or your penis, take it steady and slow and slap on the juice before you try to insert anything. Not only does it make penetration much, much easier and comfortable, it also feels a lot sexier

39. The slide. Get her to kneel on the end of the bed with her upper chest touching the mattress, while you stand behind her. This creates a steep angle for her back and elongates the vaginal barrel. It makes her feel tighter, you get a fantastic view and she'll enjoy having her nipples gently stimulated by rubbing on the mattress. Everyone's a winner

40. Go deeper and longer. If your partner's going down, stand while she kneels or sits on the bed. This angle lets her take more of you, gives her better control and is less tiring (all that head-bobbing can take its toll) - and that means she can keep going for longer

41. If it's YOUR tongue's tour of duty, try this: have the lucky lady lie with her legs bent and relaxed to form a diamond shape, kneel down on her right side and go down on her with the top of your head facing her feet

42. Breathing in unison will intensify both your orgasms

43. Slip your right hand under her bum to stimulate her perineum (the sensitive area between her vagina and anus) with your thumb, whenever you’re down there.
    Believe us; it won't be long before it's your turn to be on the receiving end again

44. Create the whole alphabet, spell her name or a nice message with your tongue over her whole body including her clitoris

45. With her permission, melt some good quality chocolate, let it cool down and then brush it onto her body, before licking it off

46. When inside her keep as still as possible and kiss for a long time to take the emphasis off the urgency to climax

47. As you go inside her, do it really slowly and tease yourself inside, taking it out at regular intervals and really take your time, changing tempo and speed to go faster and slower.

48. In between penetration, give oral sex and kiss her all over her body

49. If she doesn’t like something you are doing, stop immediately without questioning her

50. Film each other and ask her to model for you, but always keep movies confidential

51. After mind-blowing sex keep the atmosphere between you intimate and loving

52. Have a bottle of her favourite liqueur on hand to treat her after sex

53. Indulge her with her favourite fruit with cream while she is blindfolded

54. Post-coitus, prepare her some aphrodisiac foods such oysters, sauerkraut, avocado or chocolate, avoiding too many carbohydrates or red meat

55. Be sure to keep paying attention to her sensual areas with soft caresses - such as the feet, nape of the neck, back, ears and face

56. Tell her how much you have enjoyed the experience

57. Give her a gift of a set of erotic underwear in her favourite colour

58. On future occasions take her by surprise, for example, by turning up at her place of work during lunchtime and whisking her off for a quickie

59. Another idea is indulging in role-play with outfits such as school uniform, doctors & nurses

60. Be inventive about where you have sex: for example, in the shower - as running water is very sensual – or in the garden

61. Buy sex toys regularly to spice up and vary your sex life

62. Approach pornography with care, gauging her reactions. If she is into it, let her chose the film you watch

63. Invest in full-length wardrobe mirrors in the bedroom and bathroom

64. Never get lazy and always make sure you look your best for her with clean hair, body, nails and good quality after-shave

65. Turn your mobile phone and the television off

66. Remember the biggest erogenous zone of all is the brain

67. Most important of all, remember to be a gentleman

68. Allow yourself to totally relax and enjoy the experience, putting your partner’s pleasure first, because giving is receiving

69. And don’t leave it to her to dispose of the condom!